When I was mere youth, I decided that the only way I could make a living from my abilities was to become a commercial artist. What I failed to appreciate was my own inability to cope with the pressures associated with that industry. It took me a very long time (at least 17 years) to realise the old saying; "if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen" very much applied to me!
Skip forward to a new career in education, and on one occasion I was engaged to work for a group of charming pensioner students. During a tea break, several people gathered around and were obviously keen to discover a bit more about their "new boy".
While I was honestly answering one individual's question about my previous employment and explaining that "I was so glad that I had got out of that business ..." another dear lady suddenly, and very indignantly shouted at me; "There's nothing wrong with commercial art!"
I was momentarily stunned by the vehemence of that completely unexpected response, but when I replied "Oh, I'm sorry if I gave you that impression, but that's not what I said... I was merely suggesting that I personally didn't like the job!"
She would have none of it and continued to angrily insist: "It's too late now young man, you can't take back what you said!"
Her reaction really upset me, but I tried very hard to remain polite, utterly professional and not to let that show for the rest of the session. Despite my efforts, the mood in the room had cooled, and the class organiser appears to have held me responsible for causing an upset!
OK, I know some folk appear to relish conflict but I suppose that misunderstandings are otherwise a fact of life, and it is just not possible to get through without offending someone along the way?
I seem to be particularly good at getting it all wrong.
Pete.