Dave,
Ok fibre brushes, there a re a few tricks to help you on your way, one is to dip the refill in diluted wood glue, though that's a bit hit and miss to the firmness you end up with, it's either not enough or so hard it digs the metal!
However I also have what we call a comm stick, this is used to dress motor commutators to reduce arcing, it's still glass fibre inside but has a hard plastic coat, the idea is that you trim off a few mm of the skin to expose the glass, the less you cut off the firmer it is. Anyway, I got to thinking about refill fibre pencils and messy glue etc and thought about adding a skin to those, to which I now skin my refills with heat shrink tubing, like above you just trim back the skin to reveal the amount of brush to give the required firmness and thus finish.
The last thing I have is a polishing stick, this is very soft and burnishes more than scratches, I've no idea where the comm stick or burnishing brush came from, I acquired them at work over the years and when they're gone I'm gong to be pretty stuck, shortly I'm going to hit the web and try and find some spares for the future.
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The picture, top left is a heat shrink refill fibre brush and below a ready treated refill, just trim back the amount skin to give the softness you require.
Top right a standard refill which has been glued, it's starting to soften now and use breaks down the glue bonding and it goes fluffy.
Bottom left is the large burnishing brush I use, again it has a thin plastic skin but that tends to break and rip off on it's own accord.
Bottom right is the much firmer comm stick or comm brush, that's the main one I use to get solder off and then polish.
Of course the best way to avoid using a fibre brush is to use less solder, it really is amazing how little solder you actually need to make a join, and, try to add lots of solder in hidden places. Flux helps too, I now use the safety flux and that lets solder run really well, thus you don't tend to get large blobs that need cleaning off.
Hope that helps.